You should not forget about each other!
I think that the majority of people know that the arrival of a child drastically changes everyday life and marital life. There is a lot of obligations that require your time and care, so there is a feeling that every member of the family wants something from you.
Given the rapid pace of life, it really takes a lot of effort and effort, and above all love to keep everything alive and forget about your own needs, and you feel worthless and exploited.
I suppose that really a lot of women met this problem today.
After all the obligations are fulfilled, there is not much strength left for your basic needs and also for the partner.
However, there is a lot of ways for the child to save the quality of your relationship and show love to each other.
– Read below what are these items to keep your marriage alive after major changes:
Keep in mind that you are both in a new situation and that you have a lot to learn.
Most of them are mothers with children while fathers are at work so that mothers have a greater routine in their everyday tasks, because they make them day by day.
When your husband comes home after work and wants to help you with the baby but does not know how to change it at the same speed as you, know that he does his best. Let him take the dress, do not criticize him immediately and laugh at him.
It has begun to be a completely different way of life for both of you and it’s important that communication is good so that marriage or relationships will last you.
Support each other
Provide support to your partner and stay on his side instead of associating with your mother. He is the person you chose and together you need to build your own life and future without any additional “side-by-side”. Of course he should do the same and always be on your side, not on your mother’s side.
The newborn is your joint task. This means that now you as a couple need to depend on one another and to support each other. Remember, this is the “path” that you have chosen together, and therefore, go forward with the common forces.
Do not compare your husband with someone else’s husband who looks like a perfect dad (I guess most of you do it). Also, do not compare yourself with other women who, according to your opinion, are perfect moms. And of course, do not even compare your baby with “the other baby from the neighborhood”.
Each family is a story for itself and each of them has its own routine, so keep in mind that you too, as a family community, are completely special. They are not important people near you that you watch every day but you and your family, and that’s why you focus on being the best family you can.
Get out of the meeting
After the news about the arrival of a baby in the family is a bit slipping, it’s time to think of yourself and your partner as a couple. The first thing you can do is to schedule another meeting. Set aside time for yourself and get out and even if it’s once a week.
The baby will be fine for that time and therefore do not allow yourself to move too much from each other until you occupy your duties. Leave everything aside and plan an ideal meeting for yourself. Go to your favorite restaurant, go to the cinema, walk, take the time in the best way and do everything that pleases you.
Show your partner that he is still the most important person in your life. If you can not organize the exit, get along with each other on the couch and watch the movie, hold hands. Be the same couple that you were before the baby arrived.
Discuss the conflicts
Do not leave unresolved things between you. If there is a problem, talk about it because you can not know which partner bothered if it does not openly tell you and the other way around, then make a conclusion, agree on the solution and apply it, but do not leave an unresolved problem. Communication is vital for a relationship to survive and you need to talk about any problems that arise with the arrival of the child.
Sleep whenever you can
Take every possible moment for extra sleep. Your body needs a break. Change that one else could sleep. When you can, leave the baby with you all night to sleep. Give yourself permission to sleep at any time because your dream is absolutely necessary.
Adjust when needed
Be prepared to change and adjust if necessary. This is a challenging period and the sacrifices bring inevitable changes. Do not insist on being all along. Remember that there is no real or wrong way now, you have to find compromises and that’s all right. This is a good exercise for later when the time comes for introducing discipline. If you start with an agreement now, it will be easier for you later.
Do not be afraid to say NO
Be honest with yourself, your partner and your family. Although everyone wants you well, it’s not possible for you to save a holiday lunch with an infant, it will only be adding extra stress not only to you but as a couple. Be kind and refuse to impose obligations from other family members. There will be time to show, now you do not need any additional tasks. You are not obliged to do anything that violates your peace. Relax and give support to each other in such situations, neglect the pressure of family and friends.
Deal with expenses
Having a baby is expensive and there will be more and more bills. The key is to talk to each other, to determine in real terms how much and what you can spend and that you adhere to. Leave something on the emergency side.
Learn from the baby
Observe your baby and pay attention to the signals she sends to you. So you will know when she tells you that she is hungry, when she is cold or when she is tired. Share everything you learn with your partner so that you both know what to expect.
Have a life that has nothing to do with the baby
Watch the news, keep up. A lot of things happen outside your home. Try not to be so concentrated on the baby to forget about everything else. This is especially important if a husband always does. Although he will surely barely wait for him to come home and see you and your child, he will most likely want to lead more serious conversations that do not have a diaper or dinner theme. Do not neglect your social life. If you go out with your friends once a week, find someone to keep the child out and go out again. Do not forget that life is still going on in the whole world, even when you get a baby.
Enjoy this experience
The first year of a baby’s life will pass very quickly and despite all the concerns, questions and frustrations that come with her. Before you turn, your baby will walk and then go to school. Enjoy these precious moments, take photos as much as you can, make an album, embroider them. And remember that as much as things seem to be difficult at some point, it will pass and it will be better.